Is This Seriously How Grownups Behave?

There is a person I work with that is disliked by the main group. Let's call her Michelle.

Michelle isn't actually disliked by the main group, but by three people in particular. Why do they dislike her? Because they *assume* she did something. See the "Three" disliked another woman who used to work here, let's call her Annette. The Three would blatantly talk about how they did not like Annette. Naturally, eventually Annette came to know these things.

The Three assumed Michelle was the snitch.

Only she wasn't. Michelle knows who the snitch is/was. Annette doesn't work here anymore, so one would think this stupid situation would have been nipped in the bud. It's hasn't. There is still animosity between Michelle and The Three. Not even between though, because Michelle is practically the nicest person I've ever met. There is animosity towards here.

I should mention that The Three are like Alphas around here.

Now. Normally I would not care, because I think this kind of office drama is stupid. But two things are at play:

1. I feel so bad for Michelle. She is nothing but nice and is disliked because of something she didn't do. She's just been keeping the Snitch's identity to herself to keep more drama from being stirred up.

2. I have apparently started to be shunned as well. From lunches anyway. Another girl, who we will call Ashley, and I USED to be included with the main group. Until recently. Emails go out about lunch and we don't them. Then, mysteriously, at 11:00 EVERYONE is gone except me, Ashley and Michelle. It was confirmed yesterday that they aren't inviting us to lunch because of Michelle.

Michelle is hurt because she is alienated and shouldn't be. Ashley and I are greatly offended because, in the absence of Michelle everyone goes back to treating us normally. But when she's around us they shun us too. It is so stupid. Really? "I'm not your friend because you are her friend" should have been left in grade school.

One of The Three used to be someone I really did consider a good friend. And yesterday, after SHE sent out an email inviting everyone else to lunch, she tried to act normally towards me.

Michelle is going to talk to the Ringleader later today. She's had enough and is going to reveal the actual snitch. Which is really going to cause big drama, because guess who the real snitch is? An HR person. . .

I know that women can be catty. It happens all the time, every day. But I hate it. Women shouldn't be this way toward each other. We all go through things that are hard and we should be lifting each other up, not tearing each other down.